All of us may, at one point in our lives, experience the death of a loved one, loss, or any form of grief. It seems natural, but how one deals with it is unique on its own. While others easily go through the grieving process, accept the loss, and move on, some people get stuck in the same place, perhaps consumed by guilt or simply unable to imagine life with the death of a loved or unlikely to move forward with such a tragic turn of events. This is a difficult phase in their lives, and no one knows for certain when they’ll be able to accept the truth, speak up, and take a turn for the better. What would help them break loose out of their own misery is grief counselling, a form of psychotherapy that brings to surface what’s been causing the emotional pain, trauma, depression, and despair. Undergoing grief counselling can help one through the following:
Learning to communicate
A grief counsellor, who can be a social worker, member of the clergy, or psychologist, can help a person open up about his or her source of grief. He or she can freely talk about feelings or emotions associated with the death or loss of a loved one such as guilt, anger, or depression. It will take a while for a person to fully express one’s feelings, but under a skilled counselor or through different approaches and techniques, counselling sessions will help prepare a person to communicate his or her own fears or regrets to address the emotional pain or trauma. This often comes at a healthy pace through regular sessions with a trusted counsellor.
Changing one’s view
A grief counsellor can provide a more objective point of view for people who are grieving and have the tendency to block out even those who are closest to them. Different methods can be used by a counsellor such as the empty chair technique, wherein a person gets to freely talk to a deceased loved one or confront his or her source of grief in an empty chair, as if they’re really there. This, among other techniques, helps release pent-up emotions, negative thoughts, and even fix broken relationships. The good thing here is that counsellors are trained in dealing with sensitive issues like these.
The counsellor helps lead the conversations to a fruitful resolution. He or she can shed light to the situation and help change one’s negative view of things about his or her life, prompting him or her to make the necessary changes. Strategies that are unique to the person’s personality and level of grief can help one stop blaming him or herself, forgive others, accept the truth, and eventually move forward with his or her life. Counsellors can even recommend different treatment options, if needed, such as therapies or group counselling.